That is a great lesson, Shey. And if it helps at all, I LOVE the way you dress. You are an inspiration.

Shame on him! You dress beautifully and you have wonderful imagination. I love your style and your deep sense of self that comes from knowing that your Creator adores you.

Thank you ladies, you are very kind. I'm sure glad I shook his words off. =)

If he were a woman, I'd say he's jealous. In my opinion you look great, you've got a nice body with a beautiful shape and you found a way you're comfortable to dress. I think most people aren't comfortable enough to truly wear what they'd like to wear and scared to evolve a personal style because they're afraid of the opinion others might have about them. I believe those comments come from insecurity and jealousy and though it's hard, I wouldn't want to give them the satisfaction of it truly affecting me.

Haters gonna hate! For the record I think you look great in all your outfits, especially this one.

Apart from knowing your absolute dignity as a child of God, I am also quite willing to indulge you and say that you dress beautifully and you have a great figure! Taa-taa to the naysayers :)

Blessings,
This Good Life

I'll just say DITTO to all the above comments!

Was the person who criticized you in perfect physical shape and an amazing dresser? or was he just your run of the mill beer belly jeans/tee/sneaker wearing dude?

while mean words will sting no matter who says them, in the long run, I think they only carry weight when they come from someone you respect/admire.

Of course we can hear a million positive comments and one negative and then ONLY think about the negative. It is our awful human nature to do that.

No he is not a good dresser nor is he in optimal shape Lyddie, he is someone I cared for many years ago that's why it hurt my feelings when he said it. This evening I told him that what he said hurt my feelings and he apologized.

It's my first visit to your blog and I have to say I like it.You are a real life woman and yoy present real life clothes.I like tat you refashion and /or make your own clothes.I'm in this mood ,too.Thrifting is not a common practice in Greece ,so I miss on this one but I remix ,swap and make clothes on my own(simple things still learning)and I keep my eyes open for bargains.I like your style a lot.Hope to hear from you.

I often get criticisms hidden in compliments.... "you are so brave to wear that" "i love your boots but I couldn't pull off wearing them with shorts like you!" the most recent was an all out "what happened to your hair?". I get peeved more than sad. i get angry because my reaction is always "how dare you think you can talk to me like that? you're not perfect so shutup!". I'm not generally an angry person....but I won't allow for that kind of mean talk straight to my face; and it strikes me that women have enough body image/self esteem issues without another person adding their negative two cents. Friends should be supportive or at the least constructive. I'd tell him off for you Shey. No worries about that. You look beautiful as always. Stupid man.

You always look awesome in your beautiful clothing. I'm amazed at the lovely clothes you find, and inspired too! Please don't take to heart the crass things that men say about the way lovely women like you look. You are truly lovely, inside and out!

Shey, first of all, you look gorgeous! I rarely see you wear an outfit that I don't really really like. Mens' mouths sometimes go into overdrive and they say stupid and hurtful things. You're right, though. God loves you how you are AND on top of that....YOU'RE FABULOUS! I just don't know why people feel they have to say such negative things and why do we let it get to us? For some reason, I'll believe one negative comment over 10 compliments! Must stop that! Hugs! ~Serene

I'm happy you decided to not worry about what he said. When someone says something horrible or puts me down I just consider the source. Similar to what Lyddie said it doesn't matter if the person holds no weight in your life.

I'm happy he apologized, but he wouldn't have an access to my life anymore. I would pretty much keep him as far away as possible. No need to keep misery around.

It's not always easy to fight off insecurities when people say stupid stuff... I've been told all sorts of things about myself, my body and the way I dress, and you got it right, it does come down to YOU to decide what you make of it all and if you let it affect you. There are all sorts of haters in this world, and it really is their loss.

And just for the record: well, clearly this man in question is either really stupid or just blind. You are beautiful, inside and out, and your style is a true inspiration!

You are a very pretty lady and you dress beautifully! Just because you don't impress him doesn't mean you don't impress God and all of your friends. And I see from the comments that you have lots of us.
And, I love your outfit today! The skirt is amazing, you look so good in skirts of that style, I'm not sure if I do or not, probably not. I think I'm too short.
Hugs, Cindy

He is a dummy.

I love the way you dress. I find lots of inspiration.Iam very happy I found your blog. I could only wish to have your body type.